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5 reasons NOT to work with me

I have to admit that I ‘stole’ the idea for this piece from AnnMarie Wyncoll of Begin-A-Book, having seen a great presentation that she gave to a Business Focus Network meeting!

So, placing my tongue firmly in my cheek, I’m going to explore the reasons that you might NOT want to work with me 😊

  1. I ask questions and really listen to the answers, both what is said and what is NOT said
    If you don’t like being asked those deep and challenging questions, from someone who’s going to pay attention and listen deeply, not just with their ears, but also with their intuition, then working with me might not be for you.
    But, if we never make the time to explore these questions, how will we grow?  How will we make the changes we long for?
    I know that your inner voice is probably both critical and fearful, telling you that the last thing you want to do is talk about these things, but working with me, you get a safe and gentle space, where we can work at the pace that’s right for you.  It doesn’t need to be complicated or painful, and in fact can even be fun!

  2. I sit beside you while we explore your challenges
    Often, when we’re looking at our challenges and diving deep into our shadow side, the last thing we want is someone there with us, seeing the things we’ve tried to keep hidden, even from ourselves, and the pain, shame and guilt that are often attached to these memories.
    In fact, we often don’t even want to go there ourselves, let alone with someone else!
    But there is no judgement here, simply the opportunity to learn how to see yourself with love, compassion and acceptance, so that you can then connect in with your deepest wisdom in order to find the answers and solutions that you’ve been wanting all along.

  3. I encourage you to review your beliefs
    Why, I hear you ask, would you want to do this?!  Aren’t these what give structure to your life & existence?  Aren’t they a part of who you are – of your very identity??
    Well, yes, but if they were created in moments of stress or trauma, they might not be serving you as well as you would like.  Taking them out to dust them off and review them every now and again can allow you to refresh and reframe them to make sure that they are supporting you in creating the life you want to live.

  4. I keep you accountable
    Who wants someone checking in on them to see how they’re doing and helping them to stay on track?  Can’t you just do this for yourself?
    Well, for most people, at least initially, it’s difficult to keep ourselves accountable.  We shy away from the things that seem challenging or potentially painful, making excuses and letting ourselves off the hook.  Also, if we take our eyes off the ball, we can so easily slip back into old habits and it can be difficult to get our momentum going again, particularly if we’re ashamed to admit that we’ve lapsed. 
    Remember, though, that even coaches have their own coach to keep them on track.  It’s not a sign of weakness, but of commitment.

  5. I focus on you, giving you time and space to talk and explore your issues
    Initially this might sound good, but who really wants to be the centre of attention in this way?  Talking about ourselves can be nice and, for some, might even feel like quite a novelty, but might it get a bit challenging after a while?
    If you’re not used to having time and space to focus on yourself, this can feel a bit daunting at first.  We’ve often learnt that this is self-centred and therefore selfish, but I believe that, in fact, it’s a valuable gift that we give, not only to ourselves but also to those around us.  Exploring our issues and being able to address our needs means that we are able to show up as our best selves, without any hidden agenda.  We’re able to be open and honest with ourselves and others, and in doing this we’re also role modelling a great way to support our wellbeing.

So, those are my top 5 reasons that you might not want to work with me.

However if, after reading these points, you’d still like to find out more about working with me and how it might support you in making the changes you long for, then let’s grab a virtual coffee and have a chat:

I look forward to connecting with you.

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